Black Queer/White Queer : Alike, where is the rule ?

The rule is that there is no rule. There's no rule to follow because : you don't need to behave like this way to be a queer or this special to be a queer. Accurately, everyone has to wield his or her sexuality as she or he can and wants, when he/she notices that the normed ones doesn't fit to him/her (heteronormativity just like homonormativity). Just keep on mind that it's not about a special kind of conceiving ones sexuality as it's not about the kind of friendship you mostly embrace with (essentially men/women, gay, lesbian, trans, bi/hetero). It's about taking the risk to go beyond the borders and discover what your body and mind allows you to do when you feel it. In fact, to think of trying to find the essence of queer, lesbian, bi, or gay : is the better way to loose oneself. The right way to be missing about queerness is to suppose that there is only one understanding of queer. As there is not one understanding of lesbians, gays, or bisexuals... When we just look at the backgrounds we notice that they are different and understand that we radicaly don't name things the same way in regard of ethnicity (and wouldn't name it the same way if ever we could name it). When we understand that we don't grap with life and difficulties the same way, we understand how everybody couldn't come out and move with it the same way. So let's be queers ! But let's make sure we are queer like we want to be.